AI* for Leaders (Part 4)

start close in,

don’t take the second step

or the third,

start with the first

thing

close in,

the step

you don’t want to take.

By: David Whyte, From: “Start Close In”, David Whyte Essentials, Langley: Many Rivers Press, 2020, page 13.

To be clear, the first step is always inward, the question is whether you are able to access that wisdom “in the moment”… or not.

For some leaders, “the second step or the third” is…

  • Settling into a comfortable silence.
  • Scanning for a problem to fix.
  • Comparing what is happening to your own knowledge/experience.

How comfortable are you with allowing time and space to “start close in” – checking in on your own tendency to “stand by”, “fix”, or “know/empathize” with whatever is happening around you?

How might the “step you don’t want to take” be standing in the way of your leadership vision and values?

*AI = Art Influence

AI* for Leaders (Part 3)

a real conversation
free from projection
and ego-flexing
is a special gift

most do not talk to listen;
they talk to be heard

self-awareness, selflessness,
and a real desire to listen
are required for mutually authentic
and honest exchange

By: yung pueblo, From: “clarity and connection”, Kansas City: Andrews McMeel Publishing, 2021, page 32.

Leaders who listen and who engage in conversation in the way described by yung pueblo have cultivated a quality of character that is impossible to “fake” because it is felt on a soulful level.

Consider – does your leadership genuinely express itself most from a desire to be heard or from a desire to listen? How do you know which is needed “in the moment”?

By extension, what practices support you in cultivating a “ mutually authentic and honest exchange” with the people who matter most in your work and life?

*AI = Art Influence

AI* for Leaders (Part 2)

This above all – to thine own self be true,

And it must follow, as the night the day,

Thou canst not then be false to any man.

– From Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3 byWilliam Shakespeare

This advice is offered (from father to son) in the middle of a play that grapples with illusion and reality. On the surface, it sounds good… being honest with yourself imbues you with integrity that should be naturally extended to others.

And yet, our inner truths are often subjective, and if we confuse our perspective with our sense of integrity, we may well “become false” to others and to the world around us.

What are the inner subjective truths within your leadership at this time? In turn, how do you allow for the same inner subjective truths in others? 

How is this balance (perhaps?) a deeper expression of integrity?

*AI = Art Influence

AI* for Leaders (Part 1)

Three Things to Remember (by Mary Oliver)

As long as you’re dancing, you can

break the rules.

Sometimes breaking the rules is just

extending the rules.

Sometimes there are no rules.

– From A Thousand Mornings, New York: Penguin, 2013, page 19.

Mary Oliver’s poem invites leaders to consider the rules or constraints (implicit or explicit) that might be holding them back and suggests that the way forward may involve greater connection, creativity, and flow.

What is your ability to “dance with it” at this time?

*AI = Art Influence

AI for Leaders – Series Intro

I am diving into a short series of weekly posts that invite a little beauty and goodness into your leadership journey.

I am being a bit cheeky – calling these posts « AI for Leaders » – where AI stand for « Art Influence » 🖌️

I am feeling quite clever about that – please don’t disabuse me of my illusions on this… It’s what delightful looks like in me 😂

The world of poetry has much to say about what it takes to lead. In a world very much dominated by « logos » – poets invite us to purposefully engage with « mythos » and within « mythos » to access our soulful selves. Poetry also doesn’t shy away from hard topics, which reflects the sometimes-comedy, sometimes-tragedy of work and life.

My intent is to create a pause between the endless checklists and snappy quotes (guilty as charged – I like them too) to create a resting space for inquiry and inspiration.

If these posts gain traction… I will try to keep them going 🙏🏼

Thanks (as always) for reading and responding if it feels right. Stay tuned – the first will land tomorrow around midday EST.

Mark Carney’s Davos 2026 Speech – An Integral Leadership and Systems Coach Perspective

Like many Canadians, I listened carefully to Mark Carney’s speech at Davos this week. A number of key indicators of what Integral (“Teal”) Leadership looks and sounds like surfaced loud and clear in Carney’s words. Here are four themes that resonated for me and my work with such leaders.

Power Conscious

Canada’s position within the world order was openly and consistently called out. In this way, Carney doesn’t seek to avoid the fact that Canada is not at the top of the pyramid when it comes to economic or military might – calling this out allows him to speak freely about what is happening.

And the question for middle powers, like Canada, is not whether to adapt to the new reality — we must. The question is whether we adapt by simply building higher walls or whether we can do something more ambitious.

Note that, in doing this, Carney doesn’t abdicate his position as a world leader. Relative power does not deprive him of his leadership. Instead, he calls on the power and strength of conviction of leaders (and nations) who believe in “win for all” outcomes to not abandon their leadership as well.

Systems Conscious

Integral leaders work systemically. They can see and understand the players or entities in the system and speak truthfully about what is actually happening. They understand complex adaptive patterns. They have direct, first-hand experience grappling with them.

And there’s another truth: if great powers abandon even the pretense of rules and values for the unhindered pursuit of their power and interests, the gains from “transactionalism” will become harder to replicate. Hegemons cannot continually monetize their relationships.


Allies will diversify to hedge against uncertainty. They’ll buy insurance, increase options in order to rebuild sovereignty — sovereignty that was once grounded in rules, but will be increasingly anchored in the ability to withstand pressure.

In this way, Carney speaks directly to leaders who are able to function at a similar level of complexity and sense-making. There is no “dumbing down” of language or logic here… because the intended audience is one who has access to understanding. This is not arrogance or aloofness – it is conscious competence. In this way, Carney shows himself to be credible at tackling some of the most complex problems ahead and builds confidence in his ability to engage in generative diplomatic dialogue.

Strategy Conscious

But I also submit to you that other countries, particularly middle powers like Canada, are not powerless. They have the capacity to build a new order that embodies our values, like respect for human rights, sustainable development, solidarity, sovereignty and territorial integrity of states.

Declaring a set of values at this time may seem “precious” to some… but this cynicism is not helpful when it comes to deeply held values that are consistently embodied by Integral Leaders. Carney declares his strategic focus to be founded in values and principles that will guide his actions. In so doing, he aims to build his relational integrity based on targeted coalition building based on shared values.

This is not naive multilateralism. Nor is it relying on their institutions. It’s building coalitions that work, issue by issue, with partners who share enough common ground to act together. In some cases, this will be the vast majority of nations. What it’s doing is creating a dense web of connections across trade, investment, culture on which we can draw for future challenges and opportunities.

This IS strategy. Looking at the complex web of conditions under which Carney could operate, he selects targeted values to guide and direct his focus and to support Canada’s actions. In this way, the best actions taken by Canada will reinforce the values expressed – by extension, any actions that draw away from these values are inherently distractions.

Emotionally Conscious

Which brings me to my last point…

We know the old order is not coming back. We shouldn’t mourn it. Nostalgia is not a strategy.

There’s a narrative out there that Canadians culturally are very polite and nice. Let there be no ambiguity here – this is not Canada “being nice”. For Integral Leaders, politeness is never prioritized ahead of respect.

This is what consciously held anger looks and sounds like. Words thoughtfully and carefully chosen to provide clarity of position – neither avoiding the “elephant in the room” nor getting personal with it. It also seeks to set a clear direction and to build momentum and the clearest path towards material and “sane” resolutions. Put another way, emotionally conscious leadership does not intentionally set out to do harm in order to coerce a specific outcome… it doesn’t seek to trigger fear or anger in others. Instead, it seeks to inspire and empower in a manner that is pragmatic and realistic.

The powerful have their power. But we have something too — the capacity to stop pretending, to name reality, to build our strength at home and to act together.

That is Canada’s path. We choose it openly and confidently.

This is what courageous and authentic Integral Leadership looks like.

The world needs more leaders like Mark Carney.

P.S. If anyone from Mark Carney’s team is looking for an Integral Leadership and Systems Coach to work with them on embodied leadership and communications, please reach out to mecaroline@insideoutagile.ca

Why I coach Climate Tech.

First and foremost, I have always worked in tech. I started my career as a software developer way back in the late 90s. I was lucky at that time to join a team that was practicing something that was considered cutting-edge at the time – Extreme Programming, the grand-daddy of Agile Software Development.

Working on an agile software team delivering products to users and customers taught me so many valuable lessons. In particular, I learned how important it is that the people who make decisions about work priority and scope be trusted and collaborative with the people who actually do the work. I also learned that it is deeply painful (dare I say heartbreaking?) to learn that the work you do hinders or holds back the people that you intend to help. To me, the connection between customer, product/program/project management, and delivery is a “win for all” relationship that is always worth developing.

After 10 years of writing code, I came to realize that I was happier and frankly better at navigating complex people systems than software systems. I transitioned my career to coaching and consulting on digital transformations. This involved being parachuted (I mean this, I worked at a startup) into client environments along with a small team of really smart software developers, aiming to initiate a change in both technology and ways of working. In this deeply empowering environment, I grew to become a senior leader and people manager – all while being one of the top billing consultants at the company. It’s hard to reduce that experience into a handful of lessons, but I will say this… this is where I learned to fully accept responsibility for my words, feelings, and actions. Where I learned hard lessons of what can happen when power is held unconsciously. It’s also where I came to another clear realization, that “coaching” is a profession and that I needed to learn and claim that craft for myself. I’ve learned so much from Integral Coaching Canada, Strozzi Institute, as well as the amazing coach trainers of ICAgile.

Throughout it all, the importance of teamwork in the truest sense of the word became clear. When working on uncertain and complex problems, having a team that you can depend on and that you trust – this is where magic happens. Whether at the leadership table or working together on a complex piece of software or connecting with some of my favourite coaches – gather smart, motivated, trustworthy people together around a goal or a problem… and then, get the hell out of their way.

Three years ago, now a Professional Coach and having launched my own business (InsideOutAgile) five years prior -coaching and consulting with private and public sectors on digital transformations – I came to another very clear realization: if we do not come together to address the impacts of climate change, nothing else we do will really matter within a few generations. At that moment, I decided that I would work exclusively with the mission-driven companies that are addressing humanity’s most pressing problem. I haven’t looked back.

So – finally – why do I coach Climate Tech?

  • Because I know what it takes to make a shift from scientist/technologist into leadership/management. I’ve done it. I’ve helped others to do this more than once.
  • Because I know that the complexity of tackling climate change means leaders of Climate Tech must be able tap into a high level of trust and collaboration (inside and outside their organization) to get the job done. That’s work. Especially as you scale up.
  • Because I know that we are asking Climate Tech to operate with a level of accepted responsibility that is above and beyond what we experience in most organizations. This doesn’t happen by accident. It starts at the top and is designed into the organization’s way of being and working – both inside the org and outside the org.
  • Because I know Climate Tech leaders sometimes need a steady hand to work with them through tough times by leaning into their mission and values. In such moments, a little coaching can go a long way…

Reflection on Culture: Carbon Reduction and Carbon Removal

I need to begin by saying that I love a good argument. My partner and I are well-matched in this trait – we so enjoy debating ideas that our daughter has learned to scuttle in and out of the family room undetected for fear of being drawn into our lively discussions.

That said, I’m also a recovering smarty pants… so that I am also developing a keen and persistent sense of my own internal desire to “take a position”, “offer a perspective”, and “fix a problem”. Oh my word, these conditioned tendencies (CTs) in me are strong and (like many a privileged Gen Xer out there) were installed in me when I was very, very young.

There’s a kickback to the “smarty pants” self-awareness journey. Because being a “smarty pants” is prevalent pattern in our culture – when you start to see it in yourself, you start to see it everywhere else too. And let me tell you, I can genuinely appreciate why my daughter prefers to dodge such interactions.

Such is my reaction to the ongoing battle surfacing around climate change – in particular – the epic battle taking place between carbon reduction and carbon removal. One need only look at any social media post by a climate technology organization to take in the emergent polarity. The basic argument: “any dollar spent on carbon removal technology is a dollar that is better spent on carbon reduction and / or nature based carbon removal solutions”. Add to this that “climate change emerged from technology; so it is unlikely that technology can get us out of this mess.”

Let me tell you that I can feel the “smarty pants” CTs firing up every time. Except that now, I see it for what it is… a desire to feel some sense of control within what is essentially a very complex, volatile, ambiguous, and uncertain future.

Such debates (however satisfying to our CTs they may be) struggle with the foundations of the climate change – our plight is such that any intervention to address climate change positively should be well understood over being well debated. Climate change cannot be fixed simply by carbon reduction or by carbon removal – we need the best of both to address this global problem. For this to happen, we need to hold our collective “smarty pants” CTs in check and use the precious time we have to better understand the relative goodness of proposed solutions (across multiple perspectives) and progress our collective agreement as to what that good can and should look like for each.

Not as satisfying as a good argument for me and my fellow smarty pants out there… but a far more generative and inclusive discussion, and one that even someone like my daughter would feel drawn to engage in.

Just Tell Them What You See

So much of coaching and leadership is defined in those moments when our circumstances are most difficult.

When it comes to difficult circumstances, there are many schools of thought. There are no lack of well intentioned and thoughtful ideas, opinions, and frameworks to support us: crucial conversations, emotional intelligence, integral theory, radical candour, psychological safety, conscious leadership, systems thinking, spiral dynamics, etc.

While these are good things… they are, at the same time, also “a market”. And these markets are constantly calling on our time and energy on the topic of difficult circumstances. To say the market is overwhelming would be understating the case. So that I would humbly offer that when circumstances are difficult – the most impactful and compassionate way to approach is really quite simple.

Just tell them what you see.

Telling them what you see isn’t controlling, clever, or kind… it is purposeful and humble. It means holding the truth of what you see, while at the same time holding the truth of your partial sight with purpose and intention. In my experience, telling them what you see naturally invites others to offer what they see as well.

The hardest part for me in these moments is letting go. Letting go means freeing myself of all the beautiful ideas, opinions, and frameworks intended to support me. It means letting go that there is a “right way” or “best way” to address difficult circumstances.

Letting go also means digging deep within myself so that do not offer what I see from a place that seeks to feed my insecurities. It also means accepting myself when I realize (too late) that I did feed my insecurities. It also means accepting myself (and the other) when I realize that my offer surfaced an insecurity in the other person. The more I practice this, the more I find myself both apologizing and forgiving with genuine love and integrity. There’s love and forgiveness involved in this core practice.

And so, when I reflect on the difficult circumstances in my life… I now intentionally seek out the space to distill with simplicity: What is it that I see? Who do I need to tell? What do I need to let go?

And then… I tell them what I see.

The Tyranny of Experts…

The specifics of my request on that day are not really of consequence… be it resolved that I was in a store, looking for skin care products and that I had planned to “give myself over to an expert” to support my choices. I walked up to a friendly young woman and explained my request.

“Let’s do this!” was written in my face – or at least my eyes – as half my face was covered by a mask.

Her enthusiasm couldn’t have been more palpable. She guided me with a spring in her step to the right place and began explaining the different philosophies behind each product line. Having rationalized which line was most suitable for my needs, she then began plucking products off the shelf and handing them to me. Talking to me the whole time about the product and how to use it…. once a week here, twice a day there, this comes before that except on Wednesdays when you should never, etc.

Like kid in a candy store, I was soon overwhelmed by the different bottles and tonics around me. Taking in all this new information, I even began to ponder if getting up an extra 20 minutes early in my day would allow for my emerging skin care routine…!

I then began to regret my decision to seek out an expert. The more she spoke, the more I wanted to find a delicate way to drop all the bottles and dash out the store (“So sorry, it appears my house is on fire.”). After a moment of internal dialogue (in which I missed key details about the importance of toners vs exfoliants) – I settled myself more comfortably in my skin (pun very much intended) and interrupted her:

“Thank you for offering me so many possibilities. For now, I think that I would like to focus on 1 or 2 things that you believe would provide me the most benefits…” – I shrugged carefully the many bottles in my arms at her – “Can you pick which I should try first? When I’m ready, I promise to come back for more.”

She paused. I mean really paused. She paused in a manner that gave me confidence that her advice would be fruitful. She then picked two bottles and even prioritized them. Explained to me why these were the most important products for me. I took them both and left the store with a more easy feeling… I would not have to get up early – thank goodness for that.

Reflecting this experience made me wonder… how many times clients “run away” from our expertise – more because they are unable to address our well intentioned tyranny than because they don’t want our help?

I can happily say that one of those two products has been quite effective and that intend to return to this skin care expert for more in due course. This time; however, my request will be more specific – what is the next step (1-2 things) that I might try to get even better results?